The mind is a messy place. There is so much there. So much that we are aware of, but so much more that we bury, or that we didn't even notice we kept there in the first place. The Grand Subconscious. The Even Grander Unconscious.
It is solely up to the parents, especially the Mother, how they want their off-spring to grow up. Science too confirms that a lot is brought to bear upon the child through its upbringing and the environment in which the child is brought up...