Happily Ever After
August 29th, 2011: The ultimate relationship is marriage. I don’t consider a relationship unless I can see a future. Old school? Maybe. I don’t understand girls, and guys, who get into “serious” relationships, knowing they can’t see themselves with the other person for the rest of their lives. I’m a long-term kind of girl. I will only talk to you seriously if I can plausibly see myself awkwardly matha tekhing at the wrong times with you during Anand Karaj.
I think Disney movies were the first avenue by which I saw that marriage was the way to go. But they were wrong in a lot of ways. Those movies told me I was a princess and that the first nice guy that comes around is going to be my prince charming and we’ll live happily every after. I’m so glad Shrek came out. Seriously. At least we got a view of life after animated marriage. But on the real, I thought finding a munda was going to be really easy as soon as I turned 18, because that’s when I became an “adult.” We’d flirt for a while, date for even longer, fall in love along the way, and then get married. Just like the movies. Wrong. And I am 100% okay with that.
I started growing up. I started realizing that Disney never told us whether prince charming could carry on a conversation about the implications of Freud, or whether he would like tea or coffee, or whether he could make the girl laugh harder than she had ever before. They never showed the little quirks that made the princess love him. And all the while I was realizing the insufficiencies of Disney movies, I was making my list of what I want in a guy. And as I’ve started figuring me out, that list has only gotten longer. And the more specific I get, the more I realize that I’ve got some serious stuff on there. I don’t have time to date just anyone. I can’t let myself be heartbroken over someone I know won’t last anyway.
So when I see my girlfriends going after some guy that doesn’t treat them right, that doesn’t long-term care about them, it hurts. Because I know they’re better than that. They’re better than wasting time on boys who can’t bother to call back or can’t muster up the effort to make an effort. And I’m better than that too.
Don’t date me unless you can marry me. If things still don’t work out, that’s fine. I’ll be okay. You’ll be okay. But the mentality with which one should go into a serious relationship should be with the commitment of marriage in mind. I’d rather have a serious relationship fail because we actually got to know each other and realized it wouldn’t work than have ten flings with no sort of deep connection at all. So regardless of all the flaws that Alladin and Cinderella had, thank you for teaching me that at the end of the day, getting married is a good thing.