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Caste System

Posted: Sat May 15, 2010 9:37 pm
by pinkangel1
Hi,
I am a 25 year old Sikh girl. I have a problem with inter-caste relationships, or my family does atleast. My boyfriend of the last 7 years is Hindu Chamar, he has converted to Sikhism. My family won't accept our relationship because my family is Jatt. He has equal financial status, education status and even converted for me (no problem with kids being Sikh). I am confused and can not hurt my parents as they have gone through so many troubles to raise me. I don't know how to leave my boyfriend also. Sometimes I feel like dying. I am not amritdhari, but I consider myself more religious than average. I have always been brought up to think that their is no caste system in Sikhism. I want replies from specifically amritdhari Sikh brothers, so they can provide me with a religious point of view.

Thanks,

Jaspreet Kaur Gill

Re: Caste System

Posted: Sun May 16, 2010 11:03 pm
by sajjansingh
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Re: Caste System

Posted: Mon May 17, 2010 5:19 am
by singhbj
Waheguru ji ka khalsa
Waheguru ji ki fateh

Jaspreet Kaur Gill ji,

It is an irony that we try to intermingle caste system with religion.
As per Gurmat every Sikh is equal in the eyes of Satguru.
But punjabi society at large has reservations in marrying their daughters out of caste.
Honour killings do take place in Punjab due to love or intercaste marriages.

So it's advisable to get prior consent of parents in such matters.

Waheguru ji ka khalsa
Waheguru ji ki fateh

Re: Caste System

Posted: Mon May 31, 2010 12:46 am
by jodha.manawan
guru fateh ji

i understand your problem,but the main thing is you must see the whole scenario from your parents point of view.it depends on why your BF has converted to sikhism,because of you or he really found smthin in sikhism which satisfies his soul.because dis is vry importent fr ur relationship also.u must ask him dis question. i m jatt too but dat doesn't mean we should judge people on the basis of caste.

Re: Caste System

Posted: Wed Jun 23, 2010 9:23 am
by ImperfectSikh
pinkangel1 wrote:Hi,
I am a 25 year old Sikh girl. I have a problem with inter-caste relationships, or my family does atleast. My boyfriend of the last 7 years is Hindu Chamar, he has converted to Sikhism. My family won't accept our relationship because my family is Jatt. He has equal financial status, education status and even converted for me (no problem with kids being Sikh). I am confused and can not hurt my parents as they have gone through so many troubles to raise me. I don't know how to leave my boyfriend also. Sometimes I feel like dying. I am not amritdhari, but I consider myself more religious than average. I have always been brought up to think that their is no caste system in Sikhism. I want replies from specifically amritdhari Sikh brothers, so they can provide me with a religious point of view.

Thanks,

Jaspreet Kaur Gill
Sat Sri Akaal sister,

I am not Amritdhari (yet), but here are my thoughts on the subject.

I think that you should seriously consider going your own way. If you family is caste bound, then they are really not Sikhs, and if they oppose your union with the man you love (and who from all appearances, loves you), then they are really not acting like your family.

Sorry, if that is an uncomfortable observation.