O.K Sunsingh ji weakness is with sikh boys so what do we do expel these boys from community or simply keep watching extinction of the sikh swaroop. You have just made a statement and not given any solution. Why I discuss this problem is that the identity of sikhs is getting lost and it becomes very difficult to convince the kids as they find easy way out to follow the trend.
Most of you guys in US/U.K/Canada lead relatively better life where as an average sikh in india is plagued by other problems like economic condition, Hot weather etc. therefore poor acceptability by sikh girls adds fuel to the fire.and then he questions himself that why should the onus of carrying sikh swaroop has to be on boys only ? Where as girls can go around with waxing etc.
Sikhi is increasing in many areas in the west. This is due to proper prachaar, and youth taking an active interest in Sikhi from a young age. It begins wiht teh parents.
In purataan times economic conditions were much harder, so that's no excuse. Neither is hot weather. These are all pathetic excuses used by people who are weak in their sharda. They keep saroop mostly b/c that's how they were raised. There is no introspection there, no deep search for meaning, no imbibing of the Guru's teachings. instead they are surrounded by bollywood, and actively seek that out. IF you don't want to be surrounded by bollywood, just turn off the tv and turn on the bani.
Here in the west there is more maya in the schools than in India, the schools are less accepting of dharm then in India, yet sikhs here keep saroop. There were even a few attacks on keshdari men not too long ago in my area. So the challenges out here are great, it's not walk in the park.
Why do you think people manage to become doctors or lawyers??? Why do they manage to build a big house for themselves??? It's becausee these people make a decision on what is important to them, and then set out to achieve those goals.
If Sikhi is important, than a person will live by it because it is important to him. Girls see this firmness in one's identity and find it attractive. When a person lives life by his own choices for his own reasons (such as wantng to honour sikh heritage, wanting to connect with God, wanting to maintain the traditions, wanting to make the Guru happy) then that person is more likely to stick.
Girls in many homes are not raised with Sikh values, nor are they taught the reasons for them. Same for many boys. It's unlikely that the tiny thread that connects these kind of people to Sikhi will survive when teh going gets tough. Unless they choose to think for themselves and decide it's important to them...
the onus is on every sikh, not just boys. Those that don't uphold Sikh values are not sikhs, plain and simple. IF they choose to walk away from the dharm, that is their loss. perhaps they will return, after someone speaks to them with prem and knowledge. perhaps not. this is life.
Guru Gobind Singh ji himself said that Sikhi in Punjab will decrease and will later reenter Punjab from the west. This is bhana. Ultimately, Sikhi is about your relation with God, not everyone else's. And marriage depends on your karam.