Dastar Bandi of Young basketball player Veeraj Singh Celebrated

May 12th, 2009 by Parminder Singh Chhabra

LOS ANGELES – Veeraj Singh, very proudly invited his entire basketball team to witness his Dastar Bandi (first time tying a Sikh turban) ceremony recently.   This 6-foot tall, 14 year old, handsome Sikh, has made great strides in the Basketball court.  He regularly plays inter-city and inter-state tournaments. He also excels academically and was recently accepted in the Sunny Hills High School International Baccalaureate Program, which would challenge his passion for sports!  He presently attends Parks Junior High School, in Fullerton California. He has played on an All-Net Basketball team for the past 5 years. Called the Matadors, they were the 8th grade National Champions 2009 for the National Junior Basketball (NJB). Veeraj also volunteers for America India Foundation Junior Club, which raises money for the less fortunate kids in India.

Until now, Veeraj always wore a small patka, to cover his hair, at school and during sports. The time had come for him to start wearing a full-fledged Sikh turban.  At his Dastaar Bandi ceremony, he proudly invited all his team-mates, coaches and their families. He demonstrated to the world, his pride and excitement in being a Sikh and tying the turban, a distinct symbol of his religion. Veeraj Singh is the son of a Los Angeles’ prominent couple Navneet Singh Chugh and Ritu Kaur Chugh.

The ceremony was planned very meticulously by Veeraj’s mother, Ritu Kaur, who had gone to India to pick outfits for his family members for this very special occasion as well mini nishaan sahibs (Sikh religious flag) to be placed decoratively in the celebration hall of the Gurdwara. The day was celebrated with religious fervor, enthusiasm and Khalsa traditions, at The Sikh Center of Orange County, in California recently. Over 350 people, both Sikhs and non-Sikhs from different walks of life, attended this well organized function.
 
Veeraj’s Uncle Dr. Rajwant Singh and Auntie Dr. Balwinder Kaur specially flew with their family from Washington, D.C. and performed the Keertan. Dr. Singh also explained the significance of the turban and the Sikh conduct of life. While addressing Veeraj, seated in the front of The Guru Granth Sahib, Rajwant Singh, said, “ The Sikh turban is not just a piece of cloth, but a symbol, with of hundreds of years of our history and heritage wrapped in it. May it always be a reminder for you to stand up for yourself and others who need help in this world.”

Bestowing his blessings, paternal Grandfather Mohinder Singh, Editor, India Journal, stressed the importance of Bani and Bana, teachings of the Sikh Gurus and the Sikh identity, in the Sikh way of life.
 
Veeraj’s maternal grandfather Group Captain Amrik Singh Ahluwalia,  a retired Indian Air Force officer, narrated how he had  received special respect and regard because of wearing turban throughout his career.
 
Veeraj’s cousins, Sehejneet Kaur and Guransh Singh, also did Keertan and recited two shabads  ‘Binti karan jan aaya’ and ‘Har jio kirpa karo’ from the Guru Granth Sahib.  Veeraj’s 11-year younger sister, Sabrina Kaur, while delivering her speech, got emotional and with tears in her eyes, created a hall-full of a teary eyed audience!
 
Veeraj’s turban tying ceremony was performed by both, his maternal and paternal grandfathers. Rajwant Singh loudly sang “Sir Jaaye taa jaave, mera Sikhi Sidak Naa Jaave”, which made the entire atmosphere both emotional and inspirational.

Amid cries and zealous screams of Sikh Jaikaras, Veeraj Singh was crowned with Dastar. While many young Sikhs in India and US are shunning their identity due to various reasons,  on the other hand Dastar bandi ceremony is being revived by those Sikh youth who are proud of their own heritage. That is an encouraging sign for many.

Comments

Glad to see a complete Gursikh family

WOW! That is the first reaction when one sees the photographs of the COMPLETE GURSIKH FAMILY . My heartiest congratulations to the family especially the mother & father seeing how they have managed to keep their identity intact in USA especially of the young boy Veeraj Singh . Regarding the dastaar bandi ceremony , IMHO this ritual is not against Sikh Rehat maryada at all . Infact rituals like these help us to remain connected with our glorious heritage & tradition . So JUST CHILL ...

Rehat Maryada says

Section Four, Chapter XI, Article XX
Apart from these rites and conventions (pertaining to Birth and Naming of Child, Anand Sanskar, Funeral), on every happy or sad occasion, such as moving into a new house, setting up a new business (shop), putting a child to school etc., a Sikh should pray for God's help by performing the Ardas. The essential components of all rites and ceremonies in Sikhism are the recitation of the Gurbani (Sikh Scriptures) and the performing of the Ardas.

dastar Bandi

I Think Father of Mr. Viraj to much late. Its not mean i born in sikh after sixteen year old i wearing turban. My question is that in sikh family born baby girl or boy why do not make the turban from birth. If sikh Father and mother doing that our childeren do not going on wrong path. they accept the all challanges. he know what is idenity of sikh. He know the maeaning of “Sir Jaaye taa jaave, mera Sikhi Sidak Naa Jaave".

Dear British Sikhji, What

Dear British Sikhji, What makes you think that I am not a sikh or a keshdhari. Even if I am not does it make any difference about the question I raised. What is the history of this rite of passgae and why is it limited to one particular community. Just because I raised a question does not mean that I have to learn what Sikhi is from the postings on this forum. Inability to critically question our practices has brought us where we are today. The bigger picture I am talking about is why primogentiture and male preferential rituals became so important to the Sikh masses. Yes, they were already there before the advent of Sikhism. Once we profess to be Sikhs don't we have any responsibility to clean up these majority Hinduism influenced rituals from our every day lives.? I would like to know what sense do you want me to make of my life? What do you know about me? Who are you to judge me? When did the Guru left you incharge of judging others. Self-reflection and critical analysis of personal or collective actions is not an easy task. I guess this is the best you can do with your knowledge, resources and circumstances. Eh bhi daat teri daatar... .

Dastar?

Dear Simarjeet Sahotaji, if you actually read my reply, I did not say you are not a sikh or keshdari, like you I just raised the question. It could make a difference if you were not Keshdari tho. How?, well to appreciate the value of kesh and dastar it would help quite considerably if you were experiancing wearing a dastar. What I dont understand from you is that why you have a problem with a family who wish to celebrate the fact that their child, who happens to be a son, is going to wear his dastar for the first time in front of their Guru!. How does a celebration like this make it a male preferential ritual (primogeniture), or hinduism. Again, where has the family said or anyone else for that matter, that it is only the son or the first born who has this celebration, instead of ranting on about something else and trying to make yourself trying to sound like an intellect, again this celebration is for anyone, for your information though, Guru Gobind Singh ji di have a Dastar Bandi for no other than Mata Bhag Kaur, yes a Kaur, a female. But maybe Guru ji himself was following hinduism...

Bigger picture

Guru Sahai, Yes, I am looking at the bigger picture. When did this tradition start? It has its origins in the primogeniture based male ancestory influenced by Hinduism. Sikhism does not endorsss primogeniture or preferential treatment to any specific gender. What Sikhs elect to do is entirely a different question. Do the supportors of such rituals have any similar ceremony for their women kin? The question is about how and when this ritual came into existence and why is it limited only to a section of society.

WHY?

Why are you wasting time on this site? it is confusing, as by your words it is clear that 1, your may not be a sikh 2, you may not be keshdari. I do not know which, but you have just said that you are looking at the bigger picture, well, what is it? You have not explained it at all. Maybe you would do well in reading the good words written by the kind Muslim ladies, then maybe you can have some sense in your life. A Dastar, if you are not aware, is the crown that belongs to a Sikh, what better place to place this crown on your head for the first time, than in front of your Guru. But then again, maybe you do not recognise the meaning and importance of it also where does it say that this is only for males? Some Sikh ladies quite rightly choose to wear Guru's dastar, they too are welcome to celebrate in the same way. Guru Arjan Dev Ji quite rightly reminds us in Fifth Mehl, Ang 1084, Sri Guru Granth Sahib ਨਾਪਾਕ ਪਾਕੁ ਕਰਿ ਹਦੂਰਿ ਹਦੀਸਾ ਸਾਬਤ ਸੂਰਤਿ ਦਸਤਾਰ ਸਿਰਾ ॥੧੨॥ Napak pak kar hadur hadisa sabat sura dastar sira. ||12|| Purify what is impure, and let the Lord's Presence be your religious tradition. Let your total awareness be the turban on your head. ||12|| This shabd aplies to all Sikhs, not just male or female but both.

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Well done veeraj singh ji. A great example to set to your fellow brethren and the wider community also. May you continue to stand tall with lions, with the lords blessings, and not follow in the footsteps of sheep.

Sardar ji

I don't understand why Sikhs are not wearing turbans If Prophet Mohammed ji ordered muslim ladies to wear Burqua (Whether wearing burqua is wrong or not it is different issue) 1400 before we still continue that tradition without if and but, majority of our men cover head while in masjid or not. Sikh religion is just 550 year old. I think Sikhs don't read their history book or their holy Guru Granth Saheb ji.

Naznee,Thanks for your views

Naznee,Thanks for your views and advice about turban/covering head. I do not know whether you agree or not that condition of females in islamic world is worst which can not to be compared to anything except a commodity. I further do not know whether it is the teachings of prophet/islam or just forced by various religious leaders by twisting the meanings of messages of prophet. Please enlighten in details.

Sikhism and Rites of passage

Guru Sahai, Sikhs do not have any rites of passage ceremonies as all bodily functions and stages are considered cosmic in nature. I'll appreciate if someone could throw some light on how and when this ritual of dastar bandhi start. In predominantly aggrarian Sikh communities of Punjab young men start tying turbans in their mid teens without any initiation. This rite of passage ritual is community specific observance, especially urban based business families.

Distar Bandhi...

While I agree it is not compulsory to do this, I think it is great that someone can take pride in their dastar in a day when people are becoming ashamed of being a Sikh, by wearing caps over their kesh or wearing patka until later on in their lives or even cutting their Kesh. So well done to Veeraj Singh, that he felt so much pride he shared that with his freinds of a different faith promoting the meaning and importance of the Dastar. I think Simarjeet needs to look at the bigger picture.......

Dastar Bandi of Veeraj

May Waheguru shower His choicest blessings on this kid of promise who is making sikhs very proud!Congratulations to him and his parents and other relatives! May many others follow his example.

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