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Sikhi and depression

Postby God is Great » Sat Jul 07, 2018 12:43 pm


Guru pyaro I have reached point in my life where I don't know what to do. I am in my early 20s and am facing pressure with work and am really homesick. I have not made a lot of friends because the only people are those I work with and their idea of socialising is drinking etc which I do not enjoy.

I have started having suicidal thoughts and I am losing faith. I used to do my nitnem regularly but I just feel there is no point of anything in life and just want a way out. I know its wrong but I feel lonely and pathetic.Everything feels like its going wrong and I don't know how one can be in high spirits continually. I don't even know if my ardaas helps anymore.

My husband told me to seek help but I thought the Guru would guide/ help me so I didn't take medication. I can see he is getting frustrated/less supportive by the day and this makes me upset.

What do I do?
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Re: Sikhi and depression

Postby Kurasu » Sun Jul 08, 2018 10:46 am

Waheguru ji ka khalsa, waheguru ji ki fateh.

If you had diabetes, would you reject your insulin and trust in God to keep your body complete? Or would you accept that God has given you this road to walk, and take the medicine that you need to keep you healthy?

If you had an infection of the lungs, would you reject the antibiotics that would cure it and trust that God would not let your breath be taken? Or would you accept that you have an illness, and take the medicine that you need to cure it?

Depression is not an illness that can be seen with coughing, sneezing, redness, or bleeding. It is an illness of the mind. And for some people, medication is needed to help them mend it or people to speak with, so that they can recover. It is not something that you should be ashamed of, especially if it is interfering with your life.

You can find solace in prayer, but healing sometimes needs to come from many sources. Perhaps this depression is Waheguru's way of reaching out and teaching you that you must humbly accept that all need help from others sometimes. Just as Waheguru asks that we humble ourselves in seva, we must, too, humble ourselves when our bodies need help.

Sometimes, instead of being in high spirits, one must learn acceptance. And sometimes, to learn acceptance is to accept that they need help.

Most importantly to me, though, while you are getting help, look for socializing among people who do not just go out drinking. What is it that you do enjoy doing? Search out people who enjoy doing that as well, and perhaps use that to socialize with. Just because a person goes out to drink doesn't mean it is the only way they socialize. Tell them that you do not drink, and ask if they would come out and have coffee with you instead. Or perhaps ask if they will have lunch with you. Or go walking. Find company in people who are good to you. Do not let yourself be alone.

If you will forgive my pasting:

ਸਾਰੋ ਦਿਨਸੁ ਮਜੂਰੀ ਕਰਤਾ ਤੁਹੁ ਮੂਸਲਹਿ ਛਰਾਇਆ ॥
(The man works all day long, threshing the husks with the pestle.)

ਖੇਦੁ ਭਇਓ ਬੇਗਾਰੀ ਨਿਆਈ ਘਰ ਕੈ ਕਾਮਿ ਨ ਆਇਆ ॥੩॥
(He is depressed, like a forced laborer, and so he is of no use to his own home. ||3||)

ਭਇਓ ਅਨੁਗ੍ਰਹੁ ਜਾ ਕਉ ਪ੍ਰਭ ਕੋ ਤਿਸੁ ਹਿਰਦੈ ਨਾਮੁ ਵਸਾਇਆ ॥
(But when God shows His Mercy and Grace, He implants the Naam, the Name of the Lord, within the heart.)

ਸਾਧਸੰਗਤਿ ਕੈ ਪਾਛੈ ਪਰਿਅਉ ਜਨ ਨਾਨਕ ਹਰਿ ਰਸੁ ਪਾਇਆ ॥੪॥੨॥੪॥
(Search the Saadh Sangat, the Company of the Holy, O Nanak, and find the sublime essence of the Lord. ||4||2||4||)

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Re: Sikhi and depression

Postby Bundha » Sun Jul 08, 2018 1:54 pm

Benji , Guru helps in many ways. Depression is a form of illness o you must seek help. Like any other illness you would seek medical advise so why not this? Guru Ji is always with you, you know this but sometimes we have to work through our Karma. You have no idea how big your karma is and how small Guru Ji has made it through your faith in Him and by doing ardass. That big karma has been reduced to small one so give thanks to your Guru, keep the faith and go seek medical assistance.
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