We met quite by accident early in July, 2011. We have gotten closer and closer as time has gone on. I plan to visit him in Punjab sometime soon and we are both looking forward to that so much. My question is: is it common for a Sikh guy to obey his parents 100% and to never stray from their beliefs?
Without giving too much detail away, my Sikh bf is 22 and has two younger sisters. He has told me in passing that his younger sisters must marry before he does. Ok, I am fine with that. But I truly love this man and he PROMISES me that he will come to America within five years and spend some time with me here. All along, however, he has said he can give me everything in life except not marriage. And I said that was ok. I really don't want to marry, I just want to be with him, marriage or not.
I get the feeling from some of the things he says is that he MUST obey his parents and have an arranged marriage in about five years. He keeps saying it doesn't matter if he is married, he will still be my best friend....that makes me SO UPSET!!! I don't want him to have ANY WIFE except ME!!! If he disobeys his father they will disown him.
What am I to do? I cried and cried the other nite, and so did he, because we only want to be together but he doesn't want to let his parents down or be disowned. Is there a solution? I would love for him to come live with me in America and work here. Like I said, it doesn't matter if we marry or not, it matters that we are together.
Now that we had the emotional issue the other nite, if the subject comes up, he doesn't want to discuss it anymore, he says put it off until later.
I truly love him and don't want to lose him from my life. I would love to have a close, caring relationship with his parents but I don't see that happening.
I would certainly appreciate any insight into our situation and Sikh family rules, etc. If I can't be with my "B", i don't want to live. He is that special to me.
BindasGirl since July, 2011