I do not mean to cause offence or upset anyone by what I am about to say and I apologise now if anything I say may come across that way. I have some confusion in a situation I have recently been part of and I would really appreciate some help and advice as this is an area I and many others have little experience in when it comes to dating!
My situation:
Cornish lady living in Bristol. I have a law degree, an NVQ in business admin and a diamond grading diploma and still can't seem to follow my head not my heart!
His situation:
Born in Bristol, 34, lives with his parents who are very traditional and live by what I consider a beautiful culture and peaceful equal religion Sikhism.
He cuts his hair, eats meat, drinks, occasionally gambles and attends temple when he feels he needs to go.
I have never believed in love at first site but after date one (met on a standard dating site) I was smitten and head over heals. Nothing in my life has ever felt so easy and meant to be. Don't get me wrong I adore my life it is perfect and I laugh everyday. I am a very lucky person to have been born here and raised by a loving stable family who are my world.
It may seem unrealistic but I know he feels the same. The way we are with each other just can't be faked. It is beautiful.
He's religion and upbringing has resulted in such a peaceful human being, so kind, caring and selfless.
After eight months of being besotted with each other we have decided to end things on mutual ground. I know he did not want this and I know it is breaking both our hearts.
His family will never accept me and he was brought up knowing who he is and this behaviour is just not acceptable. I contributed to the ending as I wouldn't want him to have to go through the he trauma of devastating his family and eventually resenting me for it. I wouldn't want to cause that upset or "shame" on him and his family.
Although I said I understand as I didn't want to hurt his feelings I really truly don't.
How in 2016 is it better for a man of 34 years old to live in a city where "appropriate" woman are not numerous. If they have not forced an arranged marriage upon him and dating within his culture (even though many of his friends - part of the same community have not) where is he supposed to go in life? Surly happiness should be equal to the prolonging of this wonderful culture? I would embrace it, my children would be lucky to experience both cultures in my eyes even if it our different backgrounds and religions would mean there would be no wedding - we would have the happiest family.
Again I apologise for the naivety but have learnt so much about this style of life and I feel it's a shame I can't be a part of it because of where I was born.
Trying to argue the fight of fighting for love and giving up on love for cultural differences in 2016 in my head - before I end or prolong both our heartache
Many thanks for any advice given.