Living with a punjabi mother in law that acts like she is innocent and when you confront her with facts, she finds a way to twist them around or even straight out lie (even though is amritshak). She is always watching over me like a hawk when I use the kitchen and if I accidentally forget to do something she makes a big drama and says things in an indirect yet nasty way. She has another daughter in law that moved out with her other son a few years ago and my mother in law always talks negatively about her mother in front of me and lies to me about how she supposedly puts her mother in place, when in reality she doesn't because her other daughter in law would not allow it. I wonder why she talks so negative about her mother and in fact there is not one female she gets along with in her life except for her daughter.
My husband and his brother are the ones who paid all the bills in the house I live in with their parents yet mother in law wants to walk around and act like she's the owner.... I don't understand why everyone can't live equally? I never tried to redocorate her ugly decor in the house because I did not want to have any issues with her. She lives in such a filthy way with everything unclean and clutter all around the house yet she always loves to comment about others and if they keep things clean or not.
I'm tired of my husband wasting his money on her selfish needs when we are trying to save up for our own life to move out and raise children. She and her husband never did anything for their kids... No money for anything excerpt food and cheap clothes when they were growing up... Never started a business or anything ... In fact my husband and his brother took over house payments at the age of 19 and they are now in their mid-30s and paid off 99% of payments.
She had been living free for years, free electricity, free cable for her indian channels, free everything and she gets some money from the government each month which she wastes on buying herself coach purses, shoes, etc. when she is 68! And her husband gets a lot more money each month but because she cannot maintain a good relationship with her husband she goes to MY husband for money and not hers! Can u believe that? She is so selfish she doesn't even want to help her son save for his future after he paid her and her husband's house off!
I stay upstairs and avoid her as much as possible ... And when I leave I lock my bedroom door because I have things I don't want tampered with and I've caught her snooping into my bedroom when she thought I was still taking a shower! And then she has the nerve to comment "u ppl just always keep everything locked" when she was trying to get out of my suv and her side door was locked. How does it affect her if I keep my room locked?
I hate this weird and selfish woman. She tells my private business to her daughter which tells it to the whole world. I try telling my husband about her but he is so defensive and tries to explain her bad habits away. How can I get rid of her in my life? After we move out, I don't want her to live with us! She gives me so much tension. What can I do now that will make it less likely that she will try to live with my husband and me in the future?