by loveforsikhi » Tue Feb 09, 2016 1:12 am
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I’m only guessing here because I’m not a parent. I have seen a lot of people here in Canada send their kids to get married in India. All boys- I don’t think I’ve seen girls do the same. I suspect that is because 1) maybe the parents aren’t happy with the kind of girls their son is dating- they want the “traditional” daughter-in-law type. After all, most of these guys have dated A LOT of girls before they go abroad 2) maybe even greed is a motivator- they can get a dowry if they get married there 3) the guy can’t find anyone that’s Sikh because they live somewhere where there isn’t a lot of Sikh girls and they feel that he is “running out of time” and getting “too old” now 4) the kind of girl his mom wants him to marry wants nothing to do with him because of his bad reputation 5) they feel they can get a better sense of who the girl is in India/less surprises. I don’t really see the discipline argument. If a guy likes to go out partying, he’s going to ditch his new traditional wife at home and still go out partying, it doesn’t really change. If he’s a gang member, or wants to cheat on his wife, etc. it isn’t going to change anything. Sidenote, I feel really bad for girls who get stuck in a situation like that- they are in a new country and all they knew was he was from Canada and therefore they were supposed to have a good life. Instead sometimes they are stuck in an abusive relationship. Personally, as a female who is of marrying age, I would never think to go out of the country to get married. That person isn’t going to understand my life and its going to take a lot of (unnecessary) work. I admit I’m a little judgmental in this comment, sorry if I’ve offended anyone.