by IJJSingh » Sat Sep 19, 2015 8:58 am
Dear Preeti ji,
Congratulations on your wedding. First thing you need to decide is what exactly you are seeking. Are you looking to arrange a ritual of wedding in a guruduara or are you seeking blessing of Waheguru? These are two very different things. You may face obstacles in arranging the ritual but there is absolutely no obstacle in getting the blessing.
Currently, there is a lot of controversy on whether or not guruduaras should allow Anand Karaj involving couples where one person is not a Sikh. There are strong arguments for and against this stance. I apologize for using the term ritual for describing Anand Karaj. Anand Karaj can be a wonderful transforming experience for a couple who is in in love with the Guru. Its no more than a ritual if it is serving solely a social purpose - a billboard of sorts to show people around you that you have some affiliation with Sikhs. To arrange Anand Karaj, you will need to speak to the management of your local guruduara. Based on recent events in the UK you may not find many guruduaras willing to accommodate you.
If your main purpose is to seek Waheguru's blessing, as you have stated, then the only person it involves is you. In Sikh philosophy Waheguru is not some entity out there. Waheguru is inside and around you. The only entity in this universe and beyond is Waheguru - nothing else exists. In fact you are Waheguru. You are the guruduara, you are Amritsar. Our soul is absolute, incorruptible, ocean of consciousness which we call God. Root of our problems is our mind. Everything we perceive and experience is through our mind. Mind takes on the properties of whatever it interacts with. When our mind is facing outwards towards maya it falls into attachments and causes us to suffer. When our mind is facing inwards towards our soul it calms down and moves towards one-ness and eventually disappears into soul/God. The only real thing is soul. Mind and the universe are illusions created by soul for its own play. The blessing of Waheguru is self-awareness and the path towards self-awareness. This blessing is granted to us in the form of Guru, the Gurbani. If you are truly seeking Waheguru's blessing start by reading Gurbani, understanding Gurbani and then following Gurbani.
Waheguru ji ka Khalsa, Waheguru ji ki Fateh